Taking your relationship for granted?
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Remember the early days when you first met your life partner? Those wonderful romantic sexy days when you loved being in each other’s company and could speak for hours. You would do those special things for each other just to see the look of delight on his/her face. They were the days when your relationship was rich and vibrant and you felt fully alive because of it.
Now the “Limerance” stage is long gone, as it always does. But have you replaced it with an even better version of a deeper fuller love? Or have you been taking your loved one for granted and busying yourself with other “more immediate things, like jobs and kids and work around the home, and finances and friends?
One of the most common themes I find in my private practice as a Psychologist specialising in relationships is a “natural neglect” in secure relationships.
Even though everything in your shared life is based on a foundation of your love for each other, and your shared life, it’s all too easy to take for granted that your relationship will always be there, without realising that it, too, needs maintenance and nurturing.
Perhaps you could check in with your partner and ask him/her how happy he or she is in your relationship, on a scale of 1 to 10. Then follow it with the more important question of “What would have to happen to make it a 10 for you?”
Keeping your relationship alive and vibrant needs ongoing attention, but not only does it make for a more enjoyable life, but is one of the most enduring aspects of a life well lived.
In the twilight years of one’s life, thoughts more often than not turn to how well did I love and be loved, rather than how much money will I die with.
If you’ve let your relationship falter, a relationship counsellor can show you, in a few sessions, how to reignite the vibrancy, chemistry and love again.
At the Hart Centre Sydney, we have trained and experienced marriage and relationship counselling Psychologists in 15 locations across Sydney, so there is almost certainly one near you. In the city centre we have two Sydney CBD locations and also Bond, Crow’s Nest, Mosman and many more in outer suburbs. Please call our friendly receptionists on 1300 830 552.
For relationship counselling Sydney, contact the Hart Centre. Many marriages have been saved through relationship counselling. Sydney has many qualified relationship counsellors.